Tuesday, September 24, 2013

Breakups Suck.

Breakups suck. Everyone has been through at least one of these. And they suck. There is no other way around it. Then all the married/engaged/long term relationship people want to tell you that everything will be okay and you'll meet someone and fall in love again... Yeah, I get it. Everything happens for a reason, the feelings will fade, yada, yada, yada. Y'all. I GET IT. I really do. BUT it doesn't change the feelings you have in the moment. The worst part is feeling alone. Questioning everything you are, feeling like you will never meet anyone else, not knowing how to move on. Because let's face it, it doesn't matter who ended it or how it ended, they always suck.

I stayed in a toxic relationship because I didn't want to be alone. Breakups suck, but being alone is so much better than staying in something that constantly hurts you.  

"Being lonely, being alone, for many people sucks. I get it, I get it, I get it. But still I have to say that yes, my belief is that being with somebody who makes you feel shitty or doesn't honor the person you are is worse."


But I need to tell you what doesn't suck. What doesn't suck is when you finally do move on... What doesn't suck is being content with yourself and your life. What doesn't suck is meeting new people who make you feel worthwhile again. What doesn't suck is when all of those years and that stuff that was dragging you down starts to fade away. What doesn't suck is when you meet someone who reminds you that even though breakups suck, you're better because of it. What doesn't suck is when you meet someone who tells you that you deserve better. What doesn't suck is meeting someone who gets you. What doesn't suck is having hours of conversation and never being bored. What doesn't suck is feeling butterflies again. What doesn't suck is when you wake up and you realize that life is good and it still has so much to offer you. What doesn't suck is stepping out of your comfort zone, taking a chance and it paying off. What doesn't suck is knowing you have the courage to move on.  Being complimented, laughing, not having to explain yourself, not being questioned constantly, being completely yourself... none of those things suck. All it took was one date. One date with a new person to change everything. Nothing came of that one date and it doesn't even matter. At this point I know that I will never be the same again. I also know very clearly what I deserve and what I will no longer tolerate from anyone. Sure, breakups suck. But moving on doesn't. It's the best thing I have ever done. 


  Let go of relationships that are dragging you down and holding you back. Have the courage to take a chance, to take your life back. You won't regret it. 

Happy Tuesday, y'all!
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4 comments:

Kaitlyn's Life and Blogs said...

I so agree with this post. I was in a toxic relationship 2 years ago. I was only with 5 months but it was so bad. I wrote about it too. Now I'm in a relationship for almost 1 year and he treats me like a princess. :)

Nadine Lynn said...

Moving on is so awesome :)

Kate @ Another Clean Slate said...

I always tell friends that I learned how important it is to be content being alone. I was alone for over 4 years before getting into another serious relationship and I am so glad. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

gracebeautyandfashion said...

Completely agree , the best feeling is when you finally move on