Tuesday, September 24, 2013

Breakups Suck.

Breakups suck. Everyone has been through at least one of these. And they suck. There is no other way around it. Then all the married/engaged/long term relationship people want to tell you that everything will be okay and you'll meet someone and fall in love again... Yeah, I get it. Everything happens for a reason, the feelings will fade, yada, yada, yada. Y'all. I GET IT. I really do. BUT it doesn't change the feelings you have in the moment. The worst part is feeling alone. Questioning everything you are, feeling like you will never meet anyone else, not knowing how to move on. Because let's face it, it doesn't matter who ended it or how it ended, they always suck.

I stayed in a toxic relationship because I didn't want to be alone. Breakups suck, but being alone is so much better than staying in something that constantly hurts you.  

"Being lonely, being alone, for many people sucks. I get it, I get it, I get it. But still I have to say that yes, my belief is that being with somebody who makes you feel shitty or doesn't honor the person you are is worse."


But I need to tell you what doesn't suck. What doesn't suck is when you finally do move on... What doesn't suck is being content with yourself and your life. What doesn't suck is meeting new people who make you feel worthwhile again. What doesn't suck is when all of those years and that stuff that was dragging you down starts to fade away. What doesn't suck is when you meet someone who reminds you that even though breakups suck, you're better because of it. What doesn't suck is when you meet someone who tells you that you deserve better. What doesn't suck is meeting someone who gets you. What doesn't suck is having hours of conversation and never being bored. What doesn't suck is feeling butterflies again. What doesn't suck is when you wake up and you realize that life is good and it still has so much to offer you. What doesn't suck is stepping out of your comfort zone, taking a chance and it paying off. What doesn't suck is knowing you have the courage to move on.  Being complimented, laughing, not having to explain yourself, not being questioned constantly, being completely yourself... none of those things suck. All it took was one date. One date with a new person to change everything. Nothing came of that one date and it doesn't even matter. At this point I know that I will never be the same again. I also know very clearly what I deserve and what I will no longer tolerate from anyone. Sure, breakups suck. But moving on doesn't. It's the best thing I have ever done. 


  Let go of relationships that are dragging you down and holding you back. Have the courage to take a chance, to take your life back. You won't regret it. 

Happy Tuesday, y'all!
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Tuesday, September 17, 2013

Here We Go.

I'm back, y'all! At least, I'm working on it. I will be easing back into things! I moved, and I still haven't taken that big exam I've talking about. (I'm a slacker and I hate to study.) But, I am going to start making this little space a priority again. 

Sunday was my birthday. I turned the big 2-6. Seems so weird. So far from 20 and so close to 30. Eeeek. I think most people struggle with 25 more than 26. 25 was great for the most part...26 really got to me. It's like I woke up and I was really an adult. Not only am I an adult, but I haven't accomplished any of the things that society tells us we should have accomplished by now. It got me down for a few days, but now I'm over it. Do I really want to be like the rest of the world and do things the way everyone else has done them? No thanks. Cheers to 26 and all of the fantastic things that will happen this year! Here's to building the life I want, not the life everyone else has. Here's to committing to myself. Here's to being happier, healthier, wiser, smarter and stronger. Here's to enjoying 26 and all that it brings my way!

I can't wait to catch up with all of you and see what's been going on in your lives! 

Happy Tuesday, y'all!

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